The Gap Theory

Half of my day was spent with Dr. Joe Beam, author of "Your Love Path."  I definitely recommend it.

Dr. Beam talked today of "the gap theory,"  which defined, is the gap between your expectation and reality.  He says the size of that gap can be a good measurement of how unhappy a person is.  This can pertain to any subject, marriage, job, church, friendship, etc.

If you expect your husband or wife to look like a T.V. model, you really need to view them at the same age as your spouse.  Jack Bauer always looks good because he has make up on and reruns never age.  If you measure your marriage, church or friendship against a movie, or a television ministry you are measuring non-fiction against fiction.  It's lunacy to measure a pastor's live message against an edited for T.V. piece of footage that has all the flaws edited out.  Your relationships and marriage can never live up to fiction.

I need to be careful to measure my life against reality.  The hardest unrealistic expectations that I have ever had to deal with have been the ones I've placed on myself.

How about you?